Advice for the Over-50 Crowd
Gayle Lagman-Creswick | Oct 8, 2012, 6 a.m.
Dear Old Bag: I salute the “Solution-Minded” person who wrote a letter last month suggesting that we turn illegal immigrants into the solution, rather than the problem. What a way to turn a negative into a positive. We should all contact our congressman to make that suggestion. It sounds like a win-win! It is time to think out-of-the-box on this challenge! Thanks. Signed, Highly Agree
Dear Agree: Thanks for writing. Others wrote who agree. I did not hear from the highly negative folks on this suggestion. Just imagine: if 11.9 million illegal immigrants paid $100 it would be over $1 billion. And what if they had to pay $100 for every year they were here illegally? Billions and billions. Some could even pick up sponsors to help them pay what they owe. What an interesting idea! Let’s do it.
Dear Old Bag: A couple months ago someone wrote in about their granddaughter who was wearing skimpy clothing. She wanted to talk to her daughter about it, and you advised her not to. I am here to tell you that you were right. I boldly had that conversation with my daughter, who told her daughter (my granddaughter) that I did not approve of how she dressed. Guess what? Neither of them is speaking to me now. You gave the right advice: Keep your mouth shut. It will not do any good. Instead it will hurt relationships. It is not worth it. Signed, Learned My Lesson
Dear Learned Lesson: I heard from another woman who felt I gave the wrong advice. She said that grandmothers have a right and responsibility to speak up when they see their daughters handling child rearing poorly. I stick to my guns on this. I will mention that in some cultures this advice to children is not only welcomed, but expected. Not in our culture, however. Remember, I always say don’t give advice to grown children unless they ask—then only very carefully!
Dear Old Bag: I am a 75-year-old man and was recently hired for a job. I am in good health and was bored stiff with retirement. I feel like I have much to offer the workplace, and since my investments have let me down, working became a necessity if I wanted to live like I like to live. This office employs many young to middle-aged men and women and several of them have voiced that I should not have taken the job, and should have left it open for a younger person with a family. I am beginning to feel guilty. What do you think about this? Signed, Job Robber?
Dear Robber: I think you should ignore them and show them what a good worker you are. The truth is: It is none of their business who the boss hires, and hopefully the boss hired the best person for the job—which was you. Above all, do not feel guilty. You got the job fair and square. They should feel embarrassed for even bringing it up ... very tacky, I say!